When the father of a girl or a woman herself is looking for a godly man, a new covenant patriarch, how can they be sure they have found one? Now nothing is more desirable than a godly virgin woman. Men will do almost anything to win or seduce such a prize. So how does a godly woman tell the counterfeit godly man from the real thing?
The answer is very simple. It takes one to know one. If you are reconciled to YHWH through Christ and are obedient to God’s specific laws and His LawWord in general you will easily know to separate the sheep from the goats.
The kind of obedience I am speaking of requires that you study and discuss and learn God’s laws, precepts, wisdom, teachings, admonitions, and examples, when you get up and when you lie down, when you come and when you go, and while you are walking or riding in the car. In other words, you are to seek out every opportunity to have God’s character be impressed upon you so that you become a walking, talking applier of God’s will in whatever you do and say.
It is a big job. It will be like going to school full-time except more so. We are to write the law on our hands and put it between our eyes and on our doorposts and gates and write it on our hearts.
Write God’s laws on Post It Notes and place them everywhere in your house and car. Get an MP3 player and listen to God’s LawWord as taught by R J Rushdoony or Greg Bahnsen, the greatest teachers of God’s Law in our time – deceased now but both left behind lots of listening (and reading) material. Read Tom Shipley’s book on Man and Woman in Biblical Law for the Biblical doctrine of marriage – very important for our topic here. Here Tom definitively destroys the Satanic doctrine (1 Timothy 4:1-3) of monogyny using Scripture as his foundation.
Beware of “handy-dandy hermeneutics” created by Pharisees of all types, who make the Word of God of none effect by their traditions.
This is not really achieveable in one big jump. Its something we grow into as we are corrected in our errors by the Word as witnessed by the Spirit. As someone said, “When a man or woman is honestly mistaken and they hear the truth, they will either quit being mistaken or cease to be honest.” If you cannot be corrected by an appeal to Scripture then I am not addressing you.
Now, when you think you have found someone that seems to fit all the above criteria there is one more thing to be sure of him: he must easily and willingly give of himself sacrificially for others, especially fellow believers. That is, he must demonstrate his willingness to bear the burdens of others. “Bear one another’s burdens and thus fulfill the law of the Christ.” Galatians 6:2. It seems like a contradiction but we only have life in ourselves when we have our life in others.
Thus while Christ incarnate is the mediator between God and man, His LawWord is the mediator between man and man. That is, when we incarnate the LawWord of God and are married to another such person, we not only have the formula for a successful relationship, we have the basis for heaven on earth (Deut. 28:1-14). No matter the number of women married to a man, when all their relationships are encompassed round about by the Law of God, there will be no jealousy among them, only harmony and mutual help as they bear on another’s burdens. This division of labor is the source wealth in any economy, most basically the economy in the home.
Right now there are, sadly, very few such godly men as far as I can see. I have spent years trying to convince other Christian men of the ongoing validity of God’s Law but no matter how much homage and verbal accent they give to it, when it comes down to doing anything that would result in a change in their behavior they always seem to slip out of it at the last moment with a handy-dandy hermeneutic or they just plainly say that the price is too high for them to pay. They go along to get along, and move with the mainstream of the culture (albeit on the conservative side), refusing to pay any price or challenge any tradition to more closely align themselves with the Law of God. Then they wonder why their prayers bounce off the ceiling. God does not take their words too seriously because they adamantly refuse to take His Word too seriously.
I am being hard on a lot of men here. Many Christian men exhibit many exemplary characterisitics. But what counts, is not that a soldier is dressed smartly, salutes, and mans his position at the front. What matters is his response when the enemy attacks at a certain point. Does he go to fight where the battle is hot or does he hang back or refuse the summons of the trumpet or perhaps even harrass those who rush to the battle. As Tom Shipley demonstrates in his book, today the battle is against feminist humanism, especially baptized humanism. Church leaders who preach stirringly from the pulpit shirk from the word of God when it challenges the humanism they have adopted. Some even go so far as to viciously attack those who point out the doctrine of Biblical marriage. New covenant patriarchs count it all joy for we see their end and the victory that is ours in Christ. Beyond this, if you can find a man who not only adheres to the original Ten Commandments but also understands them as exemplfied in the New Covenant Patriarchal Creed, then you have found a man that is truly worthy of your calling to be a New Covenant Wife.
So I am appealing to godly women. Be women of God. Submit yourself to Him. Beautify yourself by learning and practicing obedience to every word of God and then pray for a man of similar character – married or not – and let the world be astonished as it witnesses your enthusiastic obedience and service to him in the Lord. Make all other Christian men want to be as godly as that man so as to attract godly women such as you.
C.S. Lewis wrote a story about people who were imprisoned in a cave. They were told that the shadows across the entrance to the cave were bars. When their rescuer came and showed them the bars were simplyt shadows and had no power to stop them, they distrusted him and stayed put. I see a lot of wonderful young women who desire nothing more than to be a wife and mother and serve a godly husband. They pray and seek God’s will and wonder why they are unintentionally single. They think God has forsaken them and failed to provide them with a husband. But the opposite is true. They (and their fathers) have failed to rightly divide the word of truth and have forsaken what God has graciously provided.
You can choose to be Isaiah 3 women who rule over men (directly or through the state and its welfare programs that steal from men), or Isaiah 4 women who submit themselves to a man of Godly character for the privelege of being called by his name. Isaiah 4 women are in fact practicing obedience to the first command God gave us. In an age of rebellion against God and his Torah, women hold the key to revival.